It All*
Let’s explore redefining what it means as a woman to have and do It All* - Asterisks like competing priorities, imagined responsibilities and demands of multiple roles. On this journey, as we untangle real life conundrums and laugh at the absurdities, we’ll share insights, so you discover what you really want and do what you really love.
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Episodes
Tuesday Jul 02, 2024
Tuesday Jul 02, 2024
Episode 16. Compassion Fatigue – Why You Need to Know
Tags: #compassionfatigue #caregiving #empathy #boundaries
In this episode, we discuss compassion fatigue and its impact on individuals in various professions and personal situations. The phrase compassion fatigue may be new to lots of us but the experience of it may be very familiar. We explore the basic elements of compassion fatigue and how it is different from burnout. It is real. We share personal examples of that this has looked like for us, and we closed with a discussion on how to support others who may be experiencing compassion fatigue.
In this Episode
Some differences between compassion fatigue and burnout
Compassion fatigue can affect us professionally or personally
The pandemic highlighted compassion fatigue
The role of self-care, boundaries, and asking for help
Resources Mentioned In The Podcast:
Arizona Trauma Institute
Definitive Healthcare
Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/
Learn more about Sarah: www.sarahciavarri.com
Learn more about Jena: www.jenakinney.com
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Credits:
Production: Samuel Cunningham- scunningham.bmt@gmail.com
Music: I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Tuesday Jun 25, 2024
Tuesday Jun 25, 2024
Episode15. Decisions, Decisions, Decisions
Tags: #decisionmaking #decisionfatigue #choices
The conversation explores the concept of decision fatigue and how it impacts our daily lives. We dive into the complexity and consequences of decision making, as well as strategies to reduce the overwhelm that can occur when too many decisions need to be made. We also discuss the importance of having a process to simplify decisions and ensure that the choices we make align with our core values.
In This Episode:
Decision fatigue is real and can decrease the quality of the choices we make.
Planning and creating routines can reduce the number of decisions we are faced with.
Aligning the decisions that we make with our core values can reduce the complexity of those decisions.
Mindful decision-making and prioritizing decisions that have a significant impact can lead to better outcomes.
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Resources:
Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/
Learn more about Sarah: sarahciavarri.com
Learn more about Jena: jenakinney.com
Credits:
Production: Samuel Cunningham- scunningham.bmt@gmail.com
Music: I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Tuesday Jun 18, 2024
Tuesday Jun 18, 2024
Episode 14. Reducing Frustrations in Your Relationships
Tags: #expectations #agreements #co-creation
Today our conversation explores the distinction between expectations and agreements, highlighting the frustration and resentment of unmet expectations and how we can shift that to more ease with the power of co-created agreements. We share examples from trivial household tasks to significant team dynamics, demonstrating how universal this distinction really is in our lives. Today’s episode includes a demonstration of Brandee practicing making an agreement so tune in until the end!
In this Episode
Distinction between agreements and expectations
How to see when you are operating in an expectation
Transform your relationships by co-creating agreements
How to make a clear agreement
Resources Mentioned In The Podcast:
Steve Chandler, Agreements vs. Expectations: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/expectations-vs-agreement-steve-chandler-julien-vaucher/
Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/
Learn more about Sarah: sarahciavarri.com
Learn more about Jena: jenakinney.com
Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have. We look forward to continuing this conversation there!
Credits:
Production: Samuel Cunningham- scunningham.bmt@gmail.com
Music: I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Thursday Jun 13, 2024
Thursday Jun 13, 2024
Bonus Episode- Impacts of It All *
Tags: #podcastimpact, #personalgrowth, #reflection, #transformativeconversations
In this episode, we reflect on the impact of the podcast and share personal insights and experiences. We talk about how our lives, perspectives, and even behaviors – yes! Behaviors - what we do – have changed and are changing because we are having these conversations. Adults learn best by doing the thing and then reflecting on doing the thing, and that is what we are doing here.
In This Episode:
We discuss the key takeaways from our earlier conversations
We discuss the moments of self-discovery and hanging in there long enough to get the learning
We discuss some of our favorite moments so far
Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have. We look forward to continuing this conversation there!
Resources:
Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/
Learn more about Sarah: www.sarahciavarri.com
Learn more about Jena: www.jenakinney.com
Credits:
Production: Samuel Cunningham- scunningham.bmt@gmail.com
Music: I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Tuesday Jun 11, 2024
Tuesday Jun 11, 2024
Episode13. When is Enough Enough?
Tags: #expectations #highstandards #content
The conversation explores the concept of 'when is enough enough' and the tendency to never feel satisfied with progress or accomplishments. We share our personal experiences of always striving for more and feeling disappointed even in good things. The conversation delves into the pressure of high standards, the sacrifices made to meet them and the beauty of enjoying the pursuit. The discussion highlights the need to find a balance between striving for improvement and recognizing and celebrating progress along the way. We also address the idea of discernment and letting go of what may not align with our long-term goals.
In This Episode:
How do you really feel about perfection?
Being content can be enough when we let it.
How we measure progress impacts our attitude and confidence. Do you measure how far you’ve come, or the distance left to go?
Are you forbidding yourself to achieve a goal by constantly moving the target?
It’s okay to adjust your expectations- even if it’s only to meet them.
Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have. We look forward to continuing this conversation there!
Resources:
The Gap and the Gain: https://www.amazon.com/Gap-Gain-Achievers-Happiness-Confidence/dp/1401964362
Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/
Learn more about Sarah: sarahciavarri.com
Learn more about Jena: jenakinney.com
Credits:
Production: Samuel Cunningham- scunningham.bmt@gmail.com
Music: I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Tuesday Jun 04, 2024
Tuesday Jun 04, 2024
Episode 12. Asking For What You Want…
Tags: #askingforwhatyouwant #clearrequests
We are talking about asking for what you want. We explore the impact that our upbringing has on our willingness to ask for what we want as well as the fear of conflict. Listen in as we share strategies for effectively expressing your desires and how clear communication and setting boundaries are key in asking for what you want, whether that’s in your professional or personal life.
In this Episode
Why is it so hard to ask for what we want, even the small things?
Distinction between asking for what you want and going after what you want.
How can we make requests that are clear and kind?
Resources Mentioned In The Podcast:
Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/
Learn more about Sarah: www.sarahciavarri.com
Learn more about Jena: www.jenakinney.com
Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have. We look forward to continuing this conversation there!
Credits:
Production: Samuel Cunningham- scunningham.bmt@gmail.com
Music: I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Tuesday May 28, 2024
Tuesday May 28, 2024
Episode 11: The ‘If-Then’ Trap
Tags: #conditionalthinking #self-awareness #getfeedback
Today we dig into the ‘if-then’ trap of conditional thinking and acting that can leave us with decision fatigue as we try to control all the elements of a situation or decision. We discuss how this trap can manifest in various aspects of life, such as parenting, work, and relationships. We share personal experiences and examples of how the if-then trap can lead to unnecessary stress, anxiety, and missed opportunities. include the importance of self-awareness, seeking feedback from trusted individuals, and using filters or values to make decisions.
In This Episode:
How do you know when are in an ‘if-then trap’? And how it can impact decision-making?
We explore the importance of seeking feedback from trusted sources to gain perspective on your own thinking
We discuss the importance of using filters or values to guide decision-making and avoid unnecessary stress
We look at recognizing the difference between healthy planning and trying to control outcomes
Resources Mentioned in the Show:
If You Give a Mouse a Cookie by Laura Numeroff and illustrated by Felicia Bond
Into the Woods on Wikipedia
Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have. We look forward to continuing this conversation there!
Resources:
Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/
Learn more about Sarah: www.sarahciavarri.com
Learn more about Jena: www.jenakinney.com
Credits:
Production: Samuel Cunningham- scunningham.bmt@gmail.com
Music: I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Tuesday May 21, 2024
Tuesday May 21, 2024
Episode 10. I’m Upset Because…
Tags: #Imupsetbecause #emotions #queuecutting
In this episode, we explore the concept of “I am upset because” and the underlying beliefs and judgments that fuel that upset. Listen in as we share different situations and talk about how we can take responsibility to create more space between us and the upset to allow us to better choose how to respond versus react to the situation.
In this Episode
Where are you running “I’m upset because…” in your life and how is it serving you?
Recognize the underlying beliefs and judgements that is fueling your upset
Take responsibility for your own emotions and choose how to respond vs react
Resources Mentioned In The Podcast:
CFJ Coaching Success School: https://carolynfreyerjones.com/
Drs Ron & Mary Hulnick: https://www.universityofsantamonica.edu/what-is-spiritual-psychology/#gsc.tab=0
Brene Brown: https://youtu.be/ijQkJAsXGvg
Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/
Learn more about Sarah: sarahciavarri.com
Learn more about Jena: jenakinney.com
Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have. We look forward to continuing this conversation there!
Credits:
Production: Samuel Cunningham- scunningham.bmt@gmail.com
Music: I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Tuesday May 14, 2024
Tuesday May 14, 2024
Episode 9. How Do you Want to be Remembered? Claiming Your Eulogy Values
Tags: #livingwithintention #eulogyvalues #legacyvalues
In this Episode
Thinking about death and contemplating how we will be remembered isn’t something lots of busy women in all the asterisks of life do often. For lots of reasons. It is uncomfortable. It feels so abstract. It may highlight gaps in what we value and how we are living. It can bring up lots of emotion.
In this episode we go there. We discuss how we want to be remembered and what we hope can be said in our eulogies; what we want our legacy to be.
Key Thoughts
What are the jolts, hard or lovely, that help shape your eulogy or legacy values?
Can you embrace these as opportunities to grow?
This is a process about looking inside; don’t let perfectionism drive the process.
Write out your own eulogy values and invite some good friends to do it with you.
Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have. We look forward to continuing this conversation there!
Resources:
Listen to Billy Joel’s new song: Turn the Lights Back On
Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/
Learn more about Sarah: www.sarahciavarri.com
Learn more about Jena: www.jenakinney.com
Credits:
Production: Samuel Cunningham - scunningham.bmt@gmail.com
Music: I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Tuesday May 07, 2024
Tuesday May 07, 2024
Episode 8. What Motherhood Teaches Us
Tags: #momming #trust #agility
In this episode we explore the unexpected personal growth that comes with being a mom. Given the true job description, it’s unlikely that most of us would have deemed ourselves qualified to raise children, yet, here we are.
In This Episode:
Being a mom pushes women to experience life outside of their comfort zones.
Momming requires constant adaptation.
Trust plays a huge role for moms.
Detaching from our own notions of what our kids should want impacts the whole family.
Humor and self reflection make navigating motherhood a bit easier.
Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have. We look forward to continuing this conversation there!
Resources:
Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/
Learn more about Sarah: sarahciavarri.com
Learn more about Jena: jenakinney.com
Credits:
Production: Samuel Cunningham- scunningham.bmt@gmail.com
Music: I Have A Dream by Gvidon